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Matrimony
Procedures for St. Raymond
Procedures for the Catholic Church
Procedures for the State of Illinois
Marriage Preparation Programs
Wedding Liturgy
Interfaith Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic
Wedding Coordinator
Rehearsals
Flowers etc.
Music and Wedding Workshops
Photographers and Videographers
Unity Candle
Worship Programs
Unity Candle
Procession

Procedures for St. Raymond
If you are interested in celebrating your marriage at Saint Raymond, your preparation process should begin seven months to one year prior to your wedding date.Parish Membership is not a requirement. We look forward to helping you during your time of engagement and preparation for vocation of Christian marriage.In the Roman Catholic tradition, the bride and groom minister the sacrament of marriage to one another; a priest or deacon and at least two witnesses are also required to be present.Ordinarily, one of the priests or deacons on the parish staff will preside at weddings celebrated in the parish. If a couple has a special relationship with one of the priests or deacons, they are free to ask him to preside.On occasion, a couple may have a priest or deacon who is a relative or a friend, whom they may wish to invite to preside at the wedding. In this case, the couple should mention this to one of the parish priests or deacons early on in the process. Unless otherwise indicated, it is assumed that a visiting priest or visiting deacon will take on the responsibility of planning your marriage celebration, completing the necessary paperwork and contacting the parish.To reserve the church for your wedding and rehearsal date, please contact the St. Raymond Worship Office at 847-253-8600, ext #145 Monday through Fridays during regular business hours. The Church Calendar Coordinator, will be happy to assist you. When you book your date and time, you are reserving the church for one and a half hours, beginning at the start time of your wedding which includes one hour for the liturgy and the remaining half hour for photographs.On Saturday, celebrations of marriage may take place at 11:00 a.m., 1:00 p.m. and at 3:00 p.m.On Sunday the suggested time is 3:00 p.m.On other days of the week, marriages may take place at a time agreed upon by the priest or deacon and the couple.Please contact the Worship Office for current fees. If this offering would cause any undue hardship, please discuss this with your presider. Couples are also requested to make a gift of $10 each for the 2 Altar Servers who assist at their wedding.The marriage license, church offering, server gifts, musician fees along with your wedding selections from the Together for Life booklet are to be given to the wedding coordinator or the presider on the night of your rehearsal.

 

Procedures for the Catholic Church
Each engaged couple must meet with a priest or deacon to complete some church paperwork. This is part of the process of determining your freedom to marry in the Church and recording the marriage in the parish archives.If one party to the marriage is a non-Catholic, other forms will be required.PLEASE NOTE: In addition to the paperwork, Catholics must provide a recently issued (dated no longer than six months before the wedding) baptismal certificate obtained from the church of their baptism, and a confirmation certificate. To obtain a copy of your baptismal certificate, simply phone the parish office of the church of your baptism. Ask that the notarized copy of your certificate be mailed directly to you.You will also complete a prenuptial questionnaire with the priest or deacon. This form will then serve as the Church’s basic record of your marriage. We also request that you please give the certificate from your marriage preparation program to your priest or deacon to be kept in your wedding file.

Procedures for the State of Illinois
You must obtain your marriage license no sooner than 60 days before your wedding date and no later than 1 day prior to that date. Apply for the license at the Office of the Clerk of Cook County at 118 North Clark Street (Lower Level), Chicago 312-603-7790, at 2121 Euclid Ave. Rm.238, Rolling Meadows 60008 847-818-2850, or any other Cook County Courthouse. (A license obtained in Cook County cannot be used in any other county or state.)Both parties must appear in person and have proper identification to serve as proof of identity and age (driver’s license, passport, or birth certificate). For additional information, call the office in Chicago or refer to the Cook County web site for information.The marriage license should be given to your priest or deacon prior to the rehearsal or it can be given to the wedding coordinator on the night of your rehearsal.After you are married, the priest or deacon will sign your marriage license, and will send it to the County Clerk’s Office. You may obtain a copy of your marriage license by contacting the County Clerk’s Office 15 business days after your wedding.

Marriage Preparation Programs
There are currently two programs that are available to assist you during this time of preparation. The parish asks that you participate in one of the two. The first is called Pre-Cana. The other is a retreat weekend for engaged couples called Discovery Weekend. The priest or deacon working with you will give you a schedule and the details regarding these programs.We also request that you please give the certificate from your marriage preparation program to your priest or deacon. This certificate will also be included in the wedding file.

Wedding Liturgy
First, let’s understand the difference. Every celebration of Mass consists of a Liturgy of the Word (entrance rite, reading, homily, general intercessions) and a Liturgy of the Eucharist (presentation of the bread and wine, the Eucharistic prayer and holy communion).When a wedding is celebrated at the Mass, the rite of marriage takes place after the homily and before the general intercessions; the Liturgy of the Eucharist follows.When a wedding is celebrated outside of Mass, it is celebrated in the Liturgy of the Word, in which the rite of marriage takes place after the homily and before the general intercessions. This rite concludes with prayers and blessings.You should make your decision in consultation with the priest or deacon who is assisting in the preparation of your marriage. You will want to consider the following:

  • What is our relationship to the Sunday Eucharist?
  • Have we been away from the community’s prayer?
  • Have we committed ourselves to returning?
  • Will the celebration of the Mass be an uncomfortable experience for a great number of those in attendance, who are not Catholic?

In light of your answers to these questions, is a Mass or a ceremony the most appropriate context for your marriage celebration? It should be noted that marriages between Catholic and non-Christians are not usually celebrated at Mass. Whether or not a Mass is celebrated when a Catholic and non-Catholic Christian are married must be decided upon in consultation with the priest or deacon assisting you in preparation.Some people seem to think that a couple is not really married unless the wedding takes place at Mass. This is simply not true! Be open and honest with the priest or deacon helping you to prepare for the sacrament.

Interfaith Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic
We realize that sometimes this causes particular problems for a couple. If we can be of any special assistance, we are here to help you.Only the Catholic person is asked to sign a paper with the following promise:“I reaffirm my faith in Jesus Christ, and with God’s help, intend to continue living that faith in the Catholic Church. I promise to do all in my power to share the faith I have received with our children by having them baptized and reared as Catholics.”Visiting clergy from other faith traditions are always welcome to co-officiate at inter-faith weddings here at St. Raymond.

 

Wedding Coordinator
A wedding coordinator will be assigned to your wedding. The coordinator will contact the bride about a week prior to the wedding. She will also be with you to lead the rehearsal practice and will be present on the day of the wedding. The coordinator works closely with the presider and she will be available for any questions and concerns that you may have for those days.

 

Rehearsals
St. Raymond is a very large parish with close to 100 weddings per year. An important event like the marriage ceremony needs to be well-planned in advance. The rehearsal gives the couple and the wedding party an opportunity to run through the ceremony so that the actual wedding celebration is smooth, efficient, and most of all, prayerful!Wedding rehearsals at our parish are conducted by our wedding coordinators. Your rehearsal date and time will be reserved at the same time you reserve the church for your ceremony. Our scheduled times for rehearsals are on Thursday and Friday evenings at 6:00 and 7:00. First come, first served.We realize that one of your concerns may be that all of your wedding party may not be able to attend the rehearsal. That’s fine! It will work well if the majority attends.It is essential that you are all gathered in the church for your assigned time. If some people are late, it is necessary to start with those present. Everyone’s time is valuable, so please be punctual.Please bring the marriage license (if you have not previously given it to your presider), all musician fees and donations, unity candle along with your worship programs on the evening of the rehearsal so you need not think of them on the day of your ceremony. The coordinator will secure them. Please mark all bags and boxes clearly with your name along with the date and time of your ceremony.We hope that the above information is helpful in your planning. If you have any other questions, you may always direct them to the priest or deacon who is helping you to plan your wedding.

 

Flowers etc.
Please make your own arrangements with florists about flowers, bouquets, decorations etc. We have 2 copper floral stands available. All floral pieces are placed behind the Altar, however, in good view by your guests. Please designate someone to take your floral pieces with you.Due to safety and insurance concerns, we no longer permit wedding aisle runners at St. Raymond.Because they stain the carpet, flower girls are not to drop fresh flower petals. Silk petals may be used provided someone is designated to pick them up after the ceremony, if a large amount of petals are dropped.Flowers for the parents at the Sign of Peace or a presentation bouquet for the Holy Family Shrine are optional.Wedding bows and decorations may not be tacked or taped to the pews but may be attached by strings or rubber bands. There are 28 rows of pews in the church.Please ask your guests to refrain from the throwing of rice, bird seed or any other materials. We also discourage the throwing of any type of paper or confetti or the releasing of balloons outside the church. If you should choose otherwise, we ask that you have someone assigned to do the cleanup that is necessary afterwards.Because of the busy church schedule, only thirty minutes are allotted for photographs after the ceremony, therefore, the bridal party and family do not exit the church or form a receiving line at church.

Music and Wedding Workshops
Many selections of music come to mind when planning a Wedding Liturgy. These selections should add not only to the beauty of the service, but also to the prayerfulness of the occasion.All specific musical planning takes place at “Wedding Liturgy and Music Workshops” which are held five times annually, usually on the first Sunday of the month at 7:00 p.m. The first half hour of the session is devoted to looking at the various options and choices involved in the actual wedding liturgy.The second phase of the workshop involves the musical dimension of your celebration. Please refer to the wedding music packet that you will receive in the mail for more specific information regarding the “Wedding Music Workshops”.This packet also contains a more comprehensive explanation of wedding music guidelines, procedures, as well as specific musical selections that are available. These music packets are available through the music office at St. Raymond De Penafort, which can be reached by calling the music office at St. Raymond De Penafort at 847-253-8600 extension x136.

  • *Accompanist (Piano/Organ)
  • *Cantor
  • Flute
  • Trumpet
  • Harp
  • Strings/Guitar
  • *Required Musicians

All couples registered to be married at St. Raymond De Penafort will receive a music packet with this information. If you feel that you may have been overlooked, please do not hesitate to call Mr. Brian Fife, our Director of Music Ministry, at the music office (253-8600 x136) to request that a packet be sent to you.

Photographers and Videographers
You will receive a copy of the “Photographers and Videographers Contract for Professionalism” and we ask that you pass it on to your photographer and videographer. This contract explains all guidelines which are expected to be followed at St. Raymond’s. The photographer and videographer are to sign, affix a business card and return the contract to us prior to the day of the wedding.Please ask your photographer to make sure he/she connects with the Wedding Coordinator before the ceremony to talk about the guidelines regarding pictures in church. Picture taking at the altar steps is allowed after the ceremony for one half-hour. If you choose to have pictures taken after the ceremony, we suggest you have a receiving line at the reception.Please ask your videographer to make sure he/she connects with the Wedding Coordinator before the ceremony to talk about the guidelines regarding taping in church. Videographers must be in one of the assigned and stationary positions outside the sanctuary. FLOODLIGHTS OR ARTIFICIAL LIGHTING MAY NOT BE USED. The wedding ceremony is primarily prayer. All photographers and videographers are asked to keep this in mind.

 

Unity Candle
If you will be lighting a Unity Candle during your ceremony, please bring it to the rehearsal and give it to the wedding coordinator. Unity Candles and holders may be purchased at religious goods, candle or greeting card stores. Unfortunately, we cannot be responsible for Unity candles left at the church after a wedding; it is yours to keep as a remembrance of this special day, so please remember to designate someone to be responsible for taking the candle with you.

Worship Programs
Some couples have elected to provide guests with ceremony worship programs to encourage and enhance everyone’s participation in the wedding ceremony. There are generally two types of ceremony programs.One is a simple outline of the order of the ceremony along with the names of those involved, such as parents of the bride and groom, the wedding party, scripture readers, offertory gift bearers, priest or deacon, etc. The other is more extensive: it includes all of the above as well as the readings, prayers that can be said by all, the exchange of vows and rings, and some of the wedding music.Before you go to a printer, we suggest that you discuss the contents of such a program with your priest or deacon. Local instant printers are the usual resource for printing wedding programs.Please bring the programs to the rehearsal; they will be secured and retrieved by the wedding coordinator at the time of your wedding. After your ceremony, all extra programs will be given to a family member or a wedding attendant.

 

Bride’s Room
A room just off the vestibule is available for the use of the bride and her attendants. The room provides a comfortable environment for all concerned, and is located near the rest rooms.

 

Procession
You may arrange your procession in any way you wish. Your presider will assist you as you plan. Some options include:

  • Groom’s parents, bride’s mother, bridesmaids and flower girls/ring bearers process from the back of the church. Bridesmaids meet groomsmen at the front pew and ascend the altar steps. Bride enters last with father, mother or other escort. Bride meets groom at the front pew.
  • Bridesmaids and groomsmen process together from the back. Maid of honor and bride meet best man and groom at front as in first option or maid of honor/best man and bride/groom process in together.
  • Groom enters church with his parents; remaining attendants can enter as in first option or as couples in second option.

These options will be reviewed with you prior to the rehearsal, however, please have the order of your bridesmaids and groomsmen listed before you arrive for the rehearsal. After the ceremony, the bridal party will leave the church in reverse order, following the bride and groom.

 

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